Blessed Birthday To You, Nate!

Blessed Birthday To You, Nate!

Dear Nate,

Blessed birthday to you! It’s our fourth year visiting this special place in remembrance of you – a place where only Mom, Dad, Sib and Em will always be visiting whenever we miss you.

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Your sis specially picked this ‘yellow’ bouquet for you. Hope you like it!

A Special Meaning Behind This Yearly Family Affair

As much as we wished you can be around with us here, we know there’s a greater meaning behind why you left us to join God in heaven. This annual visit means a lot to us as a family – it makes us treasure one another even more, letting us appreciate every blessings we received thus far.

For every losses, every challenges, every blessings are part and parcel of God’s plan for us. Some challenges are harder to embrace, and some blessings are easily forgotten – but whenever I look back at how we lost you, it always make me realise how unexpected life can be – we can only treasure what we have at the moment and make the best out of whatever circumstances we are in. Life is short but it will be shorter if you start letting your days pass by without appreciating everything you have  around you.

May every 2nd February be our official family day! To put everything behind and just have as much fun as possible for just this special day!

Here’s us chilling together for late lunch 😉 Checking out the horses and laughing over the silliest things we see! We had a lot of fun despite Em having slight running nose and Sib with a churning stomach. :/

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Hope you are enjoying yourself up there too! Love you so much, Nate!

Love,
Mummy

I Miss You So Much, Especially Today… And Probably Every Family Milestones We Celebrate In The Future

I Miss You So Much, Especially Today… And Probably Every Family Milestones We Celebrate In The Future

Dear Nate,

It has been a while since mummy has written a post here. Time really flies and your little sister is now 3 months shy from turning three! Today is actually her first day in school!

Check out that wide grin on her face – she couldn’t hold in her excitement at all!

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Family Milestones Like Today’s Just Makes Me Miss You Even More

As much as I’d like to smile as wide as your little sis, I just couldn’t help thinking about you and I wished you were here with us to celebrate today’s milestone too. We will continue to share stories about you with your two sisters. And you will always have a special place in our hearts, no matter how long you have left us.

It’s Almost 3 Years Since You Left Us And We Still Miss You A Lot

I’ve read somewhere that the grieving will taper down as time passes – as new memories replace old ones. I don’t think that’s true at all.

The loss will still continue to grow as time passes. I will always be grieving the loss of your every milestone – your first day in school, first family holiday, first girlfriend and so on and forth. 

So, I will continue to miss you badly – and I know that’s what a normal grieving parent will do. And that’s perfectly okay. 🙂

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Here’s to more milestones to celebrate and I will continue to miss you, Nate. May God continue to shower us strengths and protections to the family as we grieve in a Godly manner and remember you forever.

Love,

Mummy

[Week 34] 3 more weeks to go…

We are almost there… almost there!

Am constantly reminding myself that it’s just 3 more weeks! Have faith! Everything’s gonna be alright…

Our Last Few Days With Little N.

We are starting to get little flashes of our last few days with Nathan.

Memories are starting to fall back in place- for some reasons, we’ve been having a hard time recalling our days with Nathan.

It does bring fear at times when flashes like this happens but deep inside, I do hope I can remember more things about Nathan when we finally see Sib at the labour ward.

Truth Is, It Is More Than Just Counting Down.

The anxiety. Worries. They are starting to show as the days to her arrival date is nearing. Every single ‘signs’ seem so exaggerated probably from my gynea’s point of view. lol.

Even though the counting down gets us super nervous about everything, I kinda realised what truly matters most to us right now is the time we spend each day with our loved ones, especially with Sib.

It doesn’t matter if something were to happen again… I just don’t want to regret having not spend enough time talking and playing with her. I don’t want to waste my time feeling worried on things that I can’t control anyways.

I Need To Trust God And Have Faith That Everything Will Turn Out Fine.

We are absolutely thankful for all the blessings we have so far, even the loss of Nathan- it doesn’t stop us from feeling thankful for giving Nathan to this family.

So I shall take each day as a blessing from God… thankful for all that we have. Without Him, there will never be ‘us’ now.

[Week 31] 6 more weeks to go…

We have 6 more weeks to go. As the big day draws nearer, our fear of losing little Sib grows simultaneously too. Had a htht session with my mom today, sharing with her how I’m taking things one day at a time. Keeping my hope as low as possible, and just enjoy each day spent with little Sib.

And that made me realise the difference between ‘fear’ and ‘appreciating’ each day to its best. There’s a fine line between being afraid to think of the future vs I-just-want-to-spend-each-day-to-it-best-and-whatever-comes-it’s-a-bonus kind of mindset.

I do hope that when the big day comes, I’ll be able to overcome the fear of losing little sib. Cos’ I know that if I keep that fear in me, it will only manifest and become a bigger/ never ending fear when she grows up.

Do keep us in prayer as we learn to fully trust and have faith in God that only He will heal us from all these fear. And that I will truly enjoy the remaining pregnancy time with little Sib till she joins us in this world as our dearest little baby.

God bless our family and may we continue to give encouragement to those who are going through or been through difficulties like us. Amen!

 

[Week 28] The 3rd Trimester Begins…

Dear Nathan,

Just want to let you know how much you’ve been missed dearly each day. Our hearts are still in great pain every time we think about you and I think it’ll forever be there till we unite with you in heaven.

Your little sis has been growing well and she now weighs 1.3kg at 28 weeks! Gynea forecasted that she will probably be around 2.8kg when she arrives to this world at 38 weeks! Though you can’t be around to share the joy with us, we know that you will be anxiously looking out for her like a guardian angel.

We love you so much, Nathan! Till we meet again!

Love, Mommy

 

 

[Week 16] Yay but still worried…

Sib is officially 4-month old in mummy’s womb now 🙂

Day seems to pass damn slowly but we are trying our best to enjoy every moment with Sib. Felt Sib’s first solid kick yesterday! [Yay! Another milestone unlocked!]

We’ll be visiting our gynea in 2 weeks time. Will try to keep my anxiety and worries out of my silly human mind for now.

Week 14 check-up went extremely well

Couldn’t really sleep the night before… and was feeling so nervous as I wait for my turn to see my gynea. Not too sure if I hid my ‘nervousness’ well enough but Dr Kenneth’s bubbly-ness calmed me down a little.

We did the scan straight away and I was holding my breath praying for everything to be okay. We ended up seeing our little sib in a ‘praying’ position- lol. And yea- phew! All is well 🙂

Thank God for keeping our little sib safe and healthy. Taking one small step at a time to look forward to sib’s arrival. 5 more months to go! Ganbatte!

On a separate note…

I realised Facebook can sometimes do more harm than you would expect. 

Am starting to block a couple of facebook posts here and there… I think sometimes those Facebook posts triggers your ‘anxiety button’ for nothing. -.-|||

If it wasn’t for my job to monitor the social media space, I would have just deleted my account… at least for the next 5 months.

I was quite affected by a post from a friend who’s otw to the hospital for labor. That made some flashbacks of our little N who had braxton hicks a week before he passed. I remembered how much I was hoping that it was a real contraction, and how much I hoped we induced him out even though dilation wasn’t even at 1cm…

It brought so much memories… and there goes my afternoon I guess…

 

[Week 10] The Night Before Our Check Up

[Week 10] The Night Before Our Check Up

It’s week 10! 3 weeks just flew past pretty quickly.

I’ve been counting down for tomorrow’s check up. Feeling kinda nervous about it actually. On one hand, I can’t wait to catch a glimpse of the little sibling and yet on the other hand, I don’t know if there’s gonna be bad news coming our way during the check up.

I’ve been reminding myself to leave everything to God. Trust Him with all my might and strength. I know it’s easier said than done, the kind of fear and uncertainty simply turns me away from God.

I know that I need to overcome this fear. The pregnancy is a blessing to us no matter how it goes. This is our trial, our journey with God. I hope to overcome the inner fear and strengthen my faith in Him through this pregnancy.

From this perspective, I see a more meaningful journey than to fear each coming days like walking barefootedly on a thousand needles. Lets have hope, and trust that everything is in God’s good hands, Amen.

I will say to the Lord, “You are my place of safety and protection. You are my God and I trust you.” – Psalm 91:2